5 Essential Tips for Caring for and Coping with Aging Parents
As parents age, dealing with their emotional and physical changes can be a significant challenge for adult children. In this blog, we explore why some parents become difficult in their later years and provide practical tips on how to care for aging parents while maintaining your well-being. If you are experiencing this, you are certainly not alone. Many families face these challenges while trying to care for an aging parent.
For adult children, coping with an older parent who is difficult or combative can be extremely challenging. As some seniors age, the traditional role of parent and child often changes dramatically, as the adult child becomes the primary caregiver for their mom or dad.
If you are experiencing this, you are certainly not alone. Many families face these challenges while trying to care for an aging parent.
Why Do Aging Parents Become Difficult or Angry?
Some older parents may show signs of anger or irritability as they experience mental and physical changes. These behaviors are often caused by physical disease, or cognitive decline due to Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia. These conditions can make seniors feel irritated, anxious, and helpless.
Understanding why your parents act this way is the first step toward addressing the issue effectively. By working with healthcare professionals and recognizing the underlying causes, you can provide the support they need while also protecting your mental health.
5 Tips for Coping with a Difficult Senior Parent
Understand the Underlying Issues
Work with your parent’s healthcare providers to identify the medical or emotional causes of their behavior. Understanding their challenges—such as cognitive decline or chronic pain—can help you approach their actions with empathy. This perspective also allows you to focus on solutions rather than taking their actions personally.
Keep Healthcare Providers Involved
Stay in regular contact with your parent’s doctor to monitor their physical and mental health. Attending appointments together can ensure you’re informed about their condition and any necessary treatments, such as medication to manage anxiety or aggression. Keeping their doctor updated helps provide a clearer picture of their needs.
Identify and Calmly Address Triggers
Aggression or anger in elderly parents often reflects their internal struggles rather than personal attacks. Respond with patience, a calm tone, and empathy to de-escalate tense situations. Observe patterns in their behavior to identify triggers like overstimulation, fatigue, or hunger. Taking proactive steps to manage these triggers can help prevent outbursts.
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Seek the Support You Need
Trying to cope alone with an elderly parent who is difficult can be exhausting. Involve your siblings or other family members in your parent’s care. Taking turns helping your loved one, by spreading the care responsibilities among multiple people can make all the difference in successfully meeting your parent’s exact needs.
If family help is not available, seek out the services of a home health agency or other organizations that can help lessen the burden on you.
Pick Your Battles
When an older parent habitually becomes difficult, it is important to pick your battles with them to minimize conflict. Limit discussions with them to only important topics such as their health, medication, and other matters that directly affect their lives.
Minimize conversations about unimportant things, such as leaving dishes in the sink, the latest political news, or other matters that are not worth the energy of arguing about. Picking your battles will reduce stress by reducing unpleasant encounters.
Frontier Senior Living is Here to Help
When a once loving and supportive parent becomes difficult in their later years, interacting with them can be exhausting.
By understanding the reasons behind their behavioral changes, keeping in regular contact with their doctor and other medical professionals, trying to be patient, seeking the support you need, and picking your battles, you will be in the best position to provide the help your loved one needs.
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